A random thought of a desiring mind..

The ability to convince is one attribute the possessor can cherish for life. It’s not surprising when u see people around you do something so easily, when the same thing to you seems more than impossible. Agree every individual possess a different caliber, a different thought process, a different personality all together, but that is perhaps where the psychological study comes into picture. On a very raw basis, to me this study is nothing but understanding another’s frame of mind, what they want and what they like.


The Human mind is designed beautifully. Keeping off from the neurological complexities it offers, one very simple attribute to the brain is the lovely compatibility it seems to have with the Heart. Now this is one thing we can exploit. You give the mind what it likes and you see it is satisfied. Sometimes you give the mind what it does not like, you may still see it is satisfied, that is perhaps because the Heart is satisfied. The emotional quotient is an important factor.


One can not propose a stratology on how to convince; all you got to do is state facts. What you ask of another person or what you expect from them is what you are trying to convince them for. Now the other view… does this other person seem ok with what you are asking for? Is he willing to give you what you require? Well, if the answer is yes don’t read on.. ‘coz we are talking of ‘convincing’ here, and if you just answered yes then your job is done, be at peace.. or may be you’d want to read further.. just to know…


Let’s sketch out some details… You have “something” to convince a “loved one” about. Now the something is what you will have to “beautifully portray” to your loved one. And if that is done, you’ve convinced them, ‘coz you’ve just showed their mind what it likes. But isn’t all that simple.. if it were then I wouldn’t have written this and you wouldn’t be reading this. Lets get a little deeper into that, what is to “beautifully portray” , well it simply means, show them “what they want”. And for this you MUST know “what they want”. When you know what they want, you know how to give it to them. BUT!!!!!!!! Again if it were so simple to give them what they want, there wouldn’t be a need to “convince”. If there are 10 things of what they expect, and you have just 5 out of those, then the first thing you do is, turn their attention towards the 5 things you already have. The regular human psychology is to concentrate on what is not present, and hence they fail to bank on that they actually have. And NO NO NO!! This is no theory, this is a fact. You put in everything to show or get the other 5 things, that you tend to forget what you have, so its like you loose out on polishing the shoe your wearing n polish all the other shoes on your shoe stand and you are still planning to buy two new pairs in spite that your bankrupt!

You love your wife, and she does not like the home you’re planning to buy (did I hear u say this is EXACTLY your problem?? Yea I know, this is one major issue we all fight over.. so read on). She just thinks you can get her something better, at a better location, at a better price, with better amenities. BUT remember this is what SHE thinks (although she might even have a list of such places). All you got to do now, is show her what she expects. Ok, its not by the sea side, but it still has her favorite kitchen garden. Showing her that this new place is for her and all its goodies are for her, is only what she needs to give you that nod. To show her that this place has everything she wants (except .. ok , say two things) and you promise to work on those two, and bingo she’s all yours. If you see those two things are something you might not be able to meet, then just throw in more glitter on the rest. MOVE MOVE MOVE her attention from what is not there to what is THERE.


So you actually have chalked out a strategy,
Postulate 1: DO NOT loose focus from the things you already have, do anything to hone those skills and show them up bright, they have to win your loved one’s attention
Postulate 2: work on what you do not have, and hey work hard to get it straight, remember, you still have not convinced.
Postulate 3: The mind gets easily manipulated by the Heart, come on!! use those skills of yours to manipulate that heart (oh yes, it is close to yours!!) so it helps manipulate their mind.

Try these with your pals (in the can’t we just go here instead of there!! situation), your boss (in the let me do it my way boss!!! situation), your mother (in the Come on mom, she’s a nice girl situation), father (in the I promise I’ll drive safely dad!!! situation), siblings (yea those annoying kid brothers, or sometimes irritating sisters, you’ll have a million situations you can relate to with them! )